"Regardless of my position in my company, which is now sales manager, I am asked to do menial tasks such as buying gifts, coordinating food for meetings, making dinner reservations. When I push back I'm accused of pulling the women's lib card."
"I've been responsible for an entire department plus all good will, customer appreciation events, charity causes and secretary duties, while the men at my dealership group get to stick strictly to their departments."
"In a management position, I was asked to serve refreshments to the visiting CEO. I thought it was a joke and laughed heartily - to the requesting person's embarrassment. The upside - I was never asked again."
"I have been more routinely expected to set up going away luncheons, purchase cards & get them signed, etc. than my male colleagues. Because 'girls are better at that stuff.'"
"I refuse to be the work-wife. The expectation is that the women will provide the food and decorations. I have always resisted this role."
"For me it was plant watering."
"When I brought a new piece of business in that my company had never had, my VP of sales asked, 'What did you do, sleep with the guy?'"
"There have been several instances in my career, too many to count, when men will 'mansplain' tech terms to me, even though I also work in the tech field and I may be the one leading the meeting."
"Comment from a co-worker: 'Why do you work in the car industry? You should be working for L'Oreal. That's more for women.'"
"I've been called demeaning names like 'blondie' or 'Barbie' and told that my opinion wasn't needed 'until we're picking out shoe colors.' This is a real problem in this industry."
"About five years ago, a co-worker told me that while I might know a lot about cooking and baking in the kitchen, I didn't know much about the cost of tooling."
"Although both my husband and I had supportive employers who allowed us time for school events, doctor's appointments, etc., I was usually the one who left work to take care of things. Time away from work may not have a direct penalty, but it is noticed."
"My performance is judged based on the assumption that I work less to take care of family needs."
"During my 4th pregnancy, I was terminated and that manager said years later that it was the worst business decision he ever made."
"It is often a choice between being there for your children or taking a promotion at work. For single mothers, this is especially difficult — we don't have a wife at home taking care of our personal lives."
"I now have 2 full time jobs (work + parenting) which leaves less time to commit to work. There is clear data to indicate that the experience of a working mother is significantly different than that of a working father, even when both spouses work, especially when the female spouse has a 'big job.'"
"Gender bias and misogyny are so deeply ingrained in automotive that even men who put forth effort in being conscientious sometimes fail to catch or notice their biases due to the culture and environment surrounding them. Which is why it is incredibly important to promote more women into management positions to increase visibility of women, and to change the culture from the top down."
"The bias you ask about is very hard to see. It's more about the comfort level between my male peers and leaders who will seek out sameness. It's just more comfortable for them. Therein lies the bias."
"It is 2017 ---- I was told that the media does not want to speak with me as I am not a gearhead ... the media only wants to speak to men."
"I have not been passed up for opportunities, but I have had to fight harder for them."
"I was told when asking to interview for a bigger job that we need to 'testosterone up' the department so they wouldn't be interviewing me. They hired an outside male to take that VP position."
"I feel like some women are more comfortable putting men in places of power than women, because they see women as competition."
"As the only woman VP, I was often left out of hunting or golf trips."
"Often, I have been excluded from dinners that take place at seedy restaurants or bars. And sometimes I've even had to go to lunch with colleagues at bars where the female servers are wearing next to nothing and the men I'm with are making inappropriate comments."
"Only male co-workers get invited to company golf outings with the dealers."
"I was told it would be better if I didn't attend a social event because I would have been the only lady, and the men were used to being by themselves so they could make their usual (sexist) jokes."
"There have been activities such as paintball or golf or other sporting events that are clearly 'male only' invites. This was true 10-15 years ago as well as today, although I do see mild improvements."
"It is always assumed I am just a woman and I don't know anything about sports or wouldn't be interested in grabbing a beer. I love football and beer."
"In my former company, every VP who was male had a golf club membership. I was the only female and did not. Although I golfed, I was NEVER invited out for a social round with any of the men."
"Believe it or not, visits to 'gentlemen's clubs' still happen on corporate tabs - all the way up to directors."
"I left my previous company because I felt I was being treated unfairly due to being the only woman on my team."
"I have been passed over for promotion because I just had a child. I was told, 'We just want to wait to see how this next year goes now.'"
"The 'good ol' boys club' has definitely promoted unqualified people due to friendships with people who just happen to be male."
"I have had male co-workers get promoted much quicker than me with the same experience. I believe that my male boss thinks less of my experience and intelligence because I am a woman."
"If you are female and have children, your chances for promotion are significantly less regardless of the complexity of assignments, high quality and significant quantity of output. In addition, once you have been on a maternity leave or in a transitional work arrangement, your upward mobility is significantly reduced regardless of whether you are a top achiever."
"Very early in my career at a manufacturing facility, I was told to leave an area of the plant if I knew what was good for me."
"You learn to downplay certain things. Like ignoring a sexist joke or laughing at it anyway. Not wearing skirts or high heels. Or trying to be 'one of the boys' so they don't think you're offended. There are so many subtle things that happen all the time that no one really notices, even the women, because we're used to it at work and in our daily lives."
"I was punched in the arm by a department manager and told to be quiet when I pointed out a biased comment made in a meeting."
"I have a concealed weapons permit so I don't fear for my safety now."
"I was followed once because a superior thought I should not be dating the person I was dating. It was scary to peer outside the restaurant and know he was there."
"A male associate used to call my desk from across the room and say inappropriate things. It was very creepy and scary."
"I had a client send me lingerie. I had a colleague write a porn story starring me."
"Shockingly, in front of several co-workers, different colleagues have verbally expressed their comments on the size of my breasts."
"My job was threatened if I didn't give in. I gave in once and I am ashamed of that."
"A former boss was drunk at an event and shoved me against a wall and tried kissing me."
"I was followed into my hotel room once. Fortunately a colleague saw this happen and stepped in."
"I've been asked if I was a 'working girl' because I look like I could be one: 'Can I pay for you tonight?'"
"I was told by an associate that I was promoted because I walked around with my uniform shirt unbuttoned down to my chest. It is important to note that I intentionally wore a shirt two sizes too big along with a crew neck T-shirt underneath my uniform."
"Are you sure you are not going to cry in the production line?"
"Who will watch your children? How old are they? What does your husband think about you working shift work?"
"The problem with hiring women is that they get pregnant and have kids."
"What does your husband do and is he likely to relocate for a job?"
"Is your biological clock ticking?"
"I had a hiring manager tell me I should take his offer of employment because I was 'getting a little short on runway' meaning I was getting older, not younger."
"Questioning why I don't have children - as if there was something inherently wrong about that."
"My father was an HR manager so I knew what they could ask and not, so I would smile and say, 'Are you sure you want to ask that question?'"
"Are you a lesbian?"
"I was asked why I wanted to work when my husband could take care of me and what if I got pregnant."
"The interviewer said I resembled Dolly Parton ... just my face."
"Why, being a woman, would you want to be an engineer?"
"Will you spend the night with me?"